As a principal, wife, mother, daughter, nana, sister and friend, I have been accused many times of not giving my undivided attention (usually my grandson is the one who will bluntly call it to my attention. lol). Most of the time my brain is “on 1,000” and I frequently label it “multi-tasking” but the bottom line is, I’m oftentimes not fully present. It’s not that I don’t want to be, but it is so difficult slowing my brain down in the middle of a task or after being in over-drive all day long.
Studies show that most people pay attention in the present moment only 50% of the time. Is your percentage better or worse? How often do you find yourself “engaging” with those you love while texting, gaming, browsing, working after hours or multi-tasking in some other way?
How can we improve in this very important area? Here are 4 strategies we use in Kindergarten that can help us adults as well:
*Body still-Stop what you’re doing. When people come into my office they are probably accustomed to me talking while typing, responding to an email or finishing up a task. This one will probably be the hardest for me.
*Eyes watching-Maintain eye contact. Keeping eye contact with the person you are talking to shows that you are actively listening and paying attention.
*Voice quiet-Don’t interrupt. Let the person finish their thoughts before you attempt to respond. This demonstrates that you value what is being said.
*Ears listening-Don’t let your thoughts wander. Embrace the moment. Don’t miss the opportunity to connect with those who are important to you.
In the coming weeks, let’s practice being fully present and connecting totally with the ones we love. And as always…….
Be motivated for greater. Choose faith over fear!