Overcoming Unfruitful Thoughts

Have you ever had an unpleasant conversation, negative encounter or traumatic experience that you found yourself replaying over and over and over in your mind? How much anger, anxiety and stress does this unproductive habit cause? Why do we subject ourselves to such agony?

With the recent passing of our daughter, my thoughts have been thoroughly consumed with “what ifs,” “only ifs,” “whys,” and “why nots.” Last week, I felt myself once again slipping into an abyss of overwhelming grief as I entertained these thoughts hour after hour, minute after minute, day in and day out. I finally asked myself- is this what my life will be now? A constant replay of my deepest pain? A continuous reliving of my darkest hour?

It was in that moment that I decided that I must take control of my thoughts. That meant making a conscious decision not to hit the play button on the horror story I’ve been living since March 2nd. In that moment, I had to decide that I would make an intentional, disciplined effort not to repeatedly press rewind while going through the motions of this thing called life.

How do we bring our thoughts into subjection?
Phillipians 4:8 says: …”whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
II Cor. 10:5 says “Cast down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.

This does not mean that every thought will be one of roses and sunshine. We will experience dark and painful thoughts and emotions. Yet, we can make a conscious effort not to drown in the unrelenting waves that come to take us under. We can fight to the surface in an effort to breath in God’s new mercies and behold the many blessings present before us.

When was the last time you found yourself drowning in a sea of unfruitful thought?

Next time you find your thoughts in a rut, think on “things that are lovely.” Remember the good times. Count your many blessings. Do something that makes you happy. Encourage yourself. Encourage someone else. Seek help. Surround yourself with people that love and support you. Take it one day at a time. One moment at a time. And as always…….

Be motivated for greater. Choose faith over fear!

26 thoughts on “Overcoming Unfruitful Thoughts

      1. I agree, when I’ve gone the trials and tribulations, I pray, meditate and try to redirect my thoughts in a positive direction. I continue to hold you and the family in daily prayer.

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  1. What a wonderful post…I can’t imagine and I pray that I never experience your pain..I believe that God is pleased with your efforts and he’ll reward you acknowledgment of him in all things…good and otherwise. I pray for sweet peaceful thoughts to consume your mind and heal your soul. I so needed this for myself, thank you for being brave and honest!

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  2. Found myself several years ago in what I felt was an unbearable situation and I felt like I was drowning. Mine was a lot different from yours, but I’m certain when the heart is broken, for WHATEVER reason, IT IS PAINFUL!!!! And if it hasn’t happened, keep living.
    We must remember that GOD is always on our
    side. Your healing and blessings are here. The Lord is moving inside and outside of you ❤️. Thanks for being you!!

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  3. Found myself several years ago in what I felt was an unbearable situation and I felt like I was drowning. Mine was a lot different from yours, but I’m certain when the heart is broken, for WHATEVER reason, IT IS PAINFUL!!!! And if it hasn’t happened, keep living.
    We must remember that GOD is always on our
    side. Your healing and blessings are here. The Lord is moving inside and outside of you ❤️. Thanks for being you!!

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    1. I agree. Pain may originate from different sources but we all have to have strategies to help us overcome. The Lord has truly been the source of my strength and He has also blessed me with an amazing circle of support! ❤ I am grateful.

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  4. Dealing with grief isn’t easy, some days i have it under control and then there’s days where it’s heavy on my heart, mind and body. I’m learning to stay in control and trying to redirect my thoughts on dark days. Thank you for this, love you bunches!

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